It’s always enjoyable to be surprised the actions and behavior of people around you.
However, it’s a bad choice to trust people doing things the way you’d like.
This is why it’s time to take an honest assessment of the situation.
1.) Stop relying on that they will agree with you.
No one is under any obligation to be on your side or to be to be on the “side.”
We all have strong opinions and convictions however, we don’t have the right to force them upon the other.
If you’re and expect others to be in agreement with you, it’s going to be a tough journey.
Everyday interactions, from casual conversations to major workplaces and transactions are filled with situations in which you might not be able to agree with someone.
Be prepared Take it in stride, but don’t get involved in it.
Stop waiting for everyone to be on the same page. This isn’t going to happen.
2.) Stop imagining that you will find someone who can ‘complete’ your needs
Is there a person that can meet everyone’s needs?
What do you think? I’m going to walk on an optimistic step now and declare that yes.
I believe it 100%.
However, I believe that life isn’t long and we shouldn’t sit around waiting to find someone who can “make” us happy.
Most of us do not pay attention to an vital aspect of our lives:
The relationship we share with us.
I learned about this from the spiritual shaman Ruda Iande. In his authentic free video about cultivating positive relationships, the guru provides you the tools needed to put yourself at the centre of your life.
He explains some of the biggest errors that most of us commit when it comes to relationships including excessive expectations and codependency. We all make mistakes without realizing that we are doing it.
Then why do I recommend Ruda’s life-changing tips?
The techniques he employs are inspired by ancient shamanic practices however, he adds his own modern-day spin on these techniques. Although he may be a shaman but his romantic experiences were not that different from yours and mine.
He was able to find a solution to get over these common problems. This is what he hopes to discuss with you.
If you’re eager to take action today and create healthy and loving relationships, the ones that you’ve earned take a look at his easy honest tips.
3) Don’t expect people to give you opportunities
It’s difficult to find a decent job and earn a decent amount of money. It’s not easy for everybody.
There are those out there losing their factory job in the car at the age of 48, with four children to feed and no other alternatives.
It’s unfair, and it’s wrong If you are asking for me…
However, we’re told to believe by the elites of our society that capitalism globally is the birthplace of opportunities in addition to “growth.”
If there isn’t a forthcoming change in economic systems, I’d like to make it clear that looking for opportunities to appear because you’re a smart or intelligent person is…stupid.
It’s not likely to happen.
You must work hard and hustle like a madman. Opportunities will be there.
However, don’t be expecting anyone to offer you the opportunity to make a career. It’s not likely to happen.
4.) Stop relying on people to be concerned about your concerns
A person with compassion is a wonderful characteristic, as is empathy.
If you think that others to take care of your concerns, you’re creating the conditions for being manipulated and snared.
If you openly display all of your troubles and request for help and then respond to them, you’re behaving in a manner that is vulnerable and dependent.
This can lead to being perceived as a person with no value or “negative.”
Fair or unjust If you’re always showing in with a problem experiencing a sense of overwhelm and overwhelmed, others begin to view you as the person who isn’t worth their time.
5) Do not rely on other people to dictate what you should accomplish with your lives
I used to solicit advice from others I actively sought out every person I could think of to help me decide the best way to live my life.
I gave up all of my powerin the hope that I’d meet the right person to guide me on what to do.
What is my job?
Where can I go to school?
Could I find someone to speak to that would be able to know what I was feeling regarding my job and private life?
Perhaps someone can tell me how to meet a potential romantic partner, or provide the best area to live in that is on the rise?
What a mess. It didn’t get better until I stopped waiting for others to tell me what I should accomplish in my daily life.
6.) Stop relying on people to encourage and praise you
Certain people appear to be born as cheerleaders which is fantastic.
However, you shouldn’t expect to be greeted with a smile.
People are busy Even when you offer to help and help them out, they will not be thinking about it, or give you the praise you’re due.
It’s a pain, but that’s normal.
In the words of Ellie Hadsall writes:
“Don’t engage in something that is designed to garner the respect of others; instead perform something simply because you’re interested in doing it. Do it to make you feel better or it reflects your character.”
8.) Stop relying on reciprocity from other people
You’re not guaranteed to receive back what you gave. Not even close.
If you make a huge contribution to a project and are given high fives only to be stunned when you discover that no one else has come to their end of the bargain Don’t be surprised!
Stop requiring people to return the favor.
If people violate agreements or actually disrespect you, it’s something you need to address and you’ll have to speak up.
However, if you’re upset that no one seems to be interested in giving back after you’ve put in an enormous amount of effort Don’t be. It’s not worth the time.
9.) Stop relying on others to read your thoughts
There are many occasions when you believe that the thing you’re looking for is clear.
But that’s not always the case.
If you think others are more or less aware of what you’re thinking , or can sense what you’re thinking you’re making yourself vulnerable to frustration.
Sometimes, you have to communicate your thoughts to others.
“You might be aware of people and may be able to understand the mindset of others. It’s not possible to be expecting the same level of understanding from other people,” notes the website Your Fates.
10.) Stop assuming that people will be healthy and happy every day
There are people who have issues and they are rude to you or even spit on you.
This isn’t a good thing, however, it’s a thing that occurs.
If you think everyone will be perfectly fine every day, you’ll feel angry and depressed when they’re not.
The store clerk in the grocery store may have recently discovered that the patient has cancer. Don’t be frightened, and remain patient.